Unachieved Goals Do Not Make You a Colossal Failure

Now it’s time to think back to this time last year. As you went through your successes and struggles last year, you probably were reminded of those big goals and dreams you had for the coming year.

You were hopeful that this year you would finally reach your goals. You were determined to follow through no matter what.

But often things don’t happen that way. It takes more effort and work than we realized which makes us give up.

Let’s examine why you didn’t meet some of your goals and what you can do about that.

Unachieved Goals Do Not Make You a Colossal Failure

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What goals did you not accomplish?

First, you need to make a list of what you didn’t accomplish. What did you have the grandest intention of doing, but it fell to the side before you even got off the ground?

Sometimes these are big goals such as being consistent with going to the gym, or relatively minor, such as reading a book a week.

Two years ago I bought a journal that I vowed to complete which I thought would be simple since the format was already determined. Every day you are to complete the prompt, which is to write a list such as your favorite movies or places you’ve visited.

It still is sitting incomplete on my nightstand.

A minor goal, but a big failure.

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What goals were you enthusiastic about?

Once you have a list of what you didn’t accomplish, go back and review the goals that you did achieve last year.

What made some goals stand out for you? Why did you prioritize some goals over others? If you had the year to do over again, would you still choose the same priorities?

Let’s compare the two lists and try to determine why some were successes, and others failed.

Did you really want to accomplish these things?

Before you go any further, I want you to get real with yourself.

Did you really want to meet these goals or did you add them to your list because you felt pressured to do so?

Let’s be honest, how many people set the goals of losing weight, saving money, and decluttering their homes year after year?

It’s important to remember that it’s OK to let go of goals that you never wanted in the first place. By releasing these goals, you open more room in your life to pursue the goals that matter to you, not someone else.

What contributed to other goals slipping by without your full effort?

After you’ve reconsidered your list and identified those goals you didn’t care about, you should take a long look at why you didn’t put your full effort into the remaining goals you wanted to accomplish.

Were you so overwhelmed you didn’t know where to start? (decluttering)

Were you afraid of how accomplishing such a big goal could change your life? (weight loss)

You need to be honest with yourself about why you didn’t achieve these goals. Remember that it’s easy to dream a big goal and write it down, but it can be tough to break it down into actionable steps and create a plan.

But for the big goals, a plan is needed. They don’t just happen because we wish they would.

Additionally, you need to consider whether these goals were dependant on the actions of others. As moms, we often things that are dependant on our spouses or children. Unfortunately, you only have so much control over what they do.

It’s best to create goals for yourself in which you have control.

Are you ready to look forward?

Once you’ve completed this step, it’s time to look forward to the upcoming year. You’ve done the hard part, now let’s get to the fun stuff

You’re now ready to come up with fresh, hopeful dreams for your future.

Here are the other posts in my thoughtful goals series:

3 Easy Tips That Will Make Evaluating Past Goals a Breeze

Stop the Negativity and Reflect on the Positive First

Facing the Ugly Truth About What Made LIfe Harder Last Year

Easily Create a Framework for an Awesome New Year

Amazing Results, Not Pointless Resolutions, To Have You Loving LIfe

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About Bethany Ishee

Bethany is the mom of six, always-homeschooled children, who one day realized she'd lost herself in the process, probably under a pile of laundry. Her eclectic style of homeschooling draws upon Classical to Unschooling and everything in between.  While homeschooling her children and writing about learning outside of school, she tries to find time to read a book, drink coffee, and pay the bills.

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